Spouses and Significant Others of Those With Fibromyalgia, RSD/CRPS and Other Chronic Pain.

My name is Deb Lundquist and I am the administrator of the Facebook page Your Fibromyalgia. But if that isn't enough to prove that I am an authority to speak on this or any Chronic pain,

 let me tell you a little bit about myself. I don't want you to dismiss me as just another whiner.

My Master's degree is Extension Education which is education outside a formal classroom. That is one thing this page is all about. I also spoke in front of congress about RSD/CRPS and had everyone crying. It was a medical panel and everyone else was a doctor who all shook their heads yes with everything I said. Ed McMann, from the Johnny Carson show and with Jerry Lewis for MS was also on the panel. I have written a book on RSD and am editing it for publication. I have written an ebook on RSD/Fibromyalgia. My Pain Doctor says if I can't teach about this stuff no one can because of my research and my experience.

I have RSD/CRPS, Fibromyalgia, degenerative disk disease, spondylosis, 2 herniated disks, Chronic Complex Migraines, Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, Diabetes 2, Thyroid Disease, IBS, GERDS, Insomnia, etc.

Now I want to speak to you one on one. Do you remember the person you are with when you were first with them. Were they active? Did they work? Did they do things with you? Were you happy with them? Why did you become involved with them? Did you love them?

Were they lazy? Did they come up with excuses to not do things?

Be honest? Is that what they were like in the beginning?

Now I want to ask you another question. Let's pretend that you broke your leg. Would you expect your mate to respect you? Would you expect your mate to feed you and understand if the pain was so bad you couldn't work? Would you expect your mate to understand if you couldn't drive?

Now what if the break didn't heal right? Now what, you can't walk on the leg at all? Suddenly that leg starts to burn, burn like it is on fire, literally on fire and yet your toes are as ice and it feels like ants are crawling on you and biting. Would you expect your mate to stay with you? Or say you are faking it and I am tired of hearing your complaints. I don't see anything wrong with your leg and the doctor said your leg healed fine and you should be able to walk.

How would YOU feel? And then your mate walked out on you?

Fibromyalgia is REAL and even has an insurance code for it. With Fibromyalgia other auto-immune diseases follow. Patients need love and they still love you.

Did you not take your vows seriously? You have a job to do.

This is the same person you fell in love with in the beginning.

Love your mate. Be there for them from the very beginning, support them and give them what they need and you will strengthen your relationship and find new ways to grow together, but don't throw each other away. Respect each other from the beginning!

Don't be a throw away...leaving someone alone who has no way to take care of themselves, not because they don't want to, but because they can't.

---- Deb Lundquist January 30, 2017

Source:
https://web.facebook.com/yourfibromyalgia/posts/736395769851102